It’s amazing to think that a couple that consists of a 7 foot 300 lb Drag Queen and a loud mouth Italian husband could be invisible, however that is exactly how I feel some days about Vivian and me. It is actually a very interesting place where we are. Through the diary, my pieces for Huffington Post and Vivian’s performances; our life is pretty much on display 24/7. However we are very much invisible.
When I say invisible I don’t mean we aren’t seen because that is not true. Because when we are out and about we run into a ton of people we know. If we post something on Facebook it normally gets acknowledged, especially Vivian. What I’m talking about is that connection to individuals or organizations. We don’t really have that.
A lot of that is probably due to our personalities. I mean let’s face it a Drag Queen married to an Italian. That is some pretty intense personalities radiating from that pairing. I’m sure most people don’t know what to make of us and others I’m sure we scare away. Both of us are very opinionated, I’m sure everyone already knows that by now. On top of that we are both very protective of the other one. As much as that can be a good trait, it can cause problems from time to time. So it really isn’t surprising those connections are not formed.
I also feel both of us were born too late. Now trust me I love all the modern amenities of the 21st century, but I think I would enjoy a slower more intimate time. When people had the time to develop relationships and didn’t let EVERYTHING else get in the way of those relationships. Today it just seems like everyone is worried about themselves. Now I’m not saying that you can’t and shouldn’t worry about yourselves but having connections to others makes you a better person in my opinion.
Some times it is a very lonely position to be in. Especially in this day and age with social media, everyone’s actions are documented for other’s to see. We always know when Vivian is not booked and who is or if the Von BS weren’t included in an event. Connecting involves finding one’s niche and neither of us has really found that.
For now we are both content with having one another. At least we can see each other.